Four
Pushback is normal. It is not a sign you got it wrong.
When something has worked for years, the first refusal is usually met with more pressure rather than less. That is information about the arrangement, not a verdict on you.
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They argue
Every reason you give becomes something to dismantle. This is not a debate you can win by finding a better reason, because the reason was never the issue.
"I understand you see it differently. My answer is the same."
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They guilt-trip
After everything I've done for you. I suppose I'll manage on my own. You've changed. The aim is to make the cost of your no higher than the cost of your yes.
"I know this isn't what you wanted. I'm still not able to."
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They ask again
Tomorrow, next week, in front of other people. Treating a boundary as negotiable is a strategy, whether or not it is a conscious one. Do not improve your explanation — repeat the same sentence.
"I've already given you my answer."
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They get angry
Raised voice, insults, storming out. You are allowed to end a conversation. Say what you will do, then do it — the following through is the part that matters.
"If this continues, I'm going to leave the conversation."
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They go quiet
Days of cold politeness, or nothing at all. Silence is uncomfortable, and waiting it out is hard. Apologising to end it teaches both of you what silence can buy.
"I'm here when you want to talk. My answer hasn't changed."
Say the same thing again
The strongest thing you can do under pressure is repeat one short sentence, unchanged, in the same tone. No new reasons, no fresh evidence, no bargaining. New material gives the conversation somewhere to go.
It will feel rude the first time. It is not. It is simply the absence of the thing you usually do, which is find a better way to make a no acceptable to someone who does not want to accept it.
What this can and cannot do
A boundary will not make someone respect you, agree with you, or behave well. It only decides what you take part in. Some people will keep pushing, and then the question becomes how much contact you want, not how to phrase it better.
If someone's anger frightens you, or you are not safe saying no, this page is out of its depth. That situation needs real support from people who can actually help — not a sentence to try at home.